THE 70 / 30 RULE

THE 70 / 30 RULE
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Most couples destroy their beautiful relationships and marriages because they are not able to appreciate the  person they have and what he or she contributes to the relationship. They tend to look outside their relationships to see if they can get someone better than their partners. I have seen some couples destroy their relationships because of petty issues which could easily be solved. In their minds someone can love and treat them better than their partners are doing, therefore they will have to break up their relationships.

The 70/30 rule introduced by Uncle Ebo simply means; you are in a relationship or marriage. Your partner does the 70 % and you meet someone at church, school, work or an association who does the remaining 30% and as a result you begin to discredit the 70% your partner is contributing to the relationship and thinks this new found friend offering the 30% is better than your partner.

Many couple who start cheating on their partners allow the 30% their new found friend offering overshadow the 70% their partner is offering to save and keep the relationship. They meet this new found friend and begin to develop intimate friendship with them thinking that person is so amazing and beautiful to be with. Gradually they begin to nag, complain and compare their partners to this new found friend. Sooner than later, they begin to share the love they have for their partner with this new found friend then gradually ruin their relationships.

Everyone dating or married couple at a time face this kind of temptation but it's up to the individual to know they are in the relationship and also remember their commitment to their partners. It's easy to find yourself in this kind of web without you even knowing it, because it usually starts as a good harmless friendship then it grows slowly to the point you begin to desire more of that person's company and presence more than your partner or spouse. Some couple will prefer talking to this new found friend longer hours on their phones and sometimes into the night. If their partners raise objections to their frequent and late communications with their new found friend they will take offence.

The dangerous part of this 30% is that it clouds your mind to see all the positive aspects of your partner and relationship. You begin to magnify the weaknesses in your partner and then begin to see how it's a mistake to be with him or her. You then begin to yarn if possible you can be in a relationship with this new person. I often tell couple who face such situation that it's because their new found friend is only projecting they ideal self which portrays only their strengths without their weakness, whilst they are able to see both the strength and weakness of their partners.

Ask yourself; are you secretly admiring someone beside your partner or spouse? Is the person in your church, work place, campus or an association? Do you enjoy talking to that person more than your partner? Do you desire it would have been better if you were dating or married to this person? Do you think that new found friend is better than your partner? Are you beginning to doubt your relationship with your partner because of this person? Are you causing troubles in your relationship because of this new person? If your answer to any of the above questions is yes, then please know that you are about to ruin your relationship.

And also know that; this new person is not better than your partner, it's just that you are seeing only his or her positive side and not the negative. When you get into a relationship with him or her you will begin to see that he or she wasn't better than your partner like you think.

DON'T DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SOMEONE IS NICE TO YOU.